I just looked into it briefly and you’re right, there seems to have been some development:
Full text: https://www.juraforum.de/news/boersebz-direct-downloads-verletzen-urheberrechte_247270
Translation: Criminal liability of the downloader
However, users who download this data also infringe copyrights if it is obvious to a reasonable and fair-minded person that the public presentation (the offer on the servers of the one-click hoster) is made without the permission of the actual rights holder. This is certainly the case if, for example, a film is offered before its theatrical release. However, the obviousness should also be given after the theatrical release, since no one can expect a film production company to make its films available free of charge on servers of one-click hosts.
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It also states that downloaders are currently not being pursued, because it is too difficult to prove.
I read a couple of answers here, but I thought I’d give my 2 cents anyway. I mostly agree with the others that said it’s not a big deal and seems to be a principle of hers.
I saw that you’re not from the US. In Germany, there’s an unwritten rule that you never bring any kind of food or beverage to a restaurant. We have other fun stuff like most restaurants not giving out free water or charging you for using the toilet if you haven’t bought anything.
I could see her being upset with you if you drank your own water and ate your own food in the restaurant. But, again, that’s only from my German point of view.